Women?

I was just taking a Psych test. I finished early and walked out into the hall. Right as I walked out a girl started to walk behind me. I don't know if she was already in the hall or if she followed me out of the class. But I decided that I would just walk at a slow pace because my brother was still taking a test and I didn't want to sit in my car too long while I was waiting for him.

I expected the girl to walk past me and leave. But she just stayed behind me and waited for me to get to the door. I didn't think much of it at first but when I got to the door I thought of something. I pushed the door open and it wouldn't open because I didn't push the handle. Instead of going through the other door she stood there behind me and waited for me to go through the door. I opened the door and held it open for her. She said "thank you" and she seemed to really appreciate it. I then realized that the whole walk down the hall she was aiming for me holding the door open for her.
Isn't that special? Well I don't know that for sure because I don' know about girls, but I don't think that is too far out of a guess so I'll go with it.

So a total stranger went slightly out of her way to share the holding the door open experience with me. I know she must have had some kind of motivation for waiting for me to hold the door open for her. I don't think it was just so that she wouldn't have to open it herself, or was it? Are girls like that? I wonder if she was going for that because she got some kind of sense of satisfaction from me holding the door open for her. I know that I got some kind of sense of satisfaction from it, and I wasn't even being that polite or friendly. I just said "uh huh", no "your welcome" or eye contact or smile or anything like that.

So what can I learn from this?
Sometimes girls want you to do stuff for them and give you perfect opportunities, maybe. She went more out of her way by staying behind me and waiting than I did to hold open the door for a split second. And we don't even know each other. Will girls work to present opportunities for people to do things for them or to just interact with them? Well I'm sure it depends on who the girl is and her personality and what her relationship is with the person and how much she needs social interaction.

But do all girls find some kind of special meaning when guys open the door for them?
I don't know. I think one time I heard one girl say that she didn't. I guess they are all different.
It takes a lot of thought to try and get some insight in to life from this experience. But, this does give me a new appreciation for a quote a friend of mine said once about girls.
"Don't try to understand them, just accept them." I think that this is one of the times where I can accept not knowing. I don't need to understand everything about women and I probably can't. I do need to understand how my words and actions influence them, and do what I can to be a positive influence or at least not a negative one. Then I can understand how to be accepting.


I'll look back at this years from now and see at how ignorant I was. I might laugh but I hope I don't realize that I haven't learned anything new.