Tongue

The tongue is a fire. It can start massive waves of destruction. But it can have a positive effect of the same magnitude if used properly. If a man has full control over what he says, he has full control over all of himself and he is a complete perfected man.
I've been thinking about how words effect people. I try to be conscious of the effects that my words are having and to be careful about what kind of things I say. I hate saying bad things about other people, and I especially hate hearing bad things about people. When people hear negative stuff about other people it gives them a preconception about them. It is really hard not to think about bad things that other people have said about a person later on. Even if I call out people who are talking trash about another people and say something good about them them instead, it still messes up my mind.
I don't think people realize how much of a negative impact they have when they spread negative things about people. It hurts everyone who hears it or says it, not just the person who is getting talked about negatively.
In certain company I won't even bring up other people if I have something nice to say about them because I know that some kind of negative talk will probably follow. That is depressing.

Positive words effect people too. I've found that when people call me awesome or a genius it boosts my ego to insane degrees. Especially when girls do it. I'm sure there is a reason for that. Getting compliments from the opposite sex is way better than getting compliments from other dudes. Like I still like it when anyone says I'm a genius but for some reason when girls say nice things about it me it is like a whole different level. I rarely forget a compliment that I got from a girl. I'm probably insecure or something. That is one of the things I try not to hold back to much. If I come up with something good to say about someone that I genuinely think is true, I will try to say it. I would feel guilty if I made a compliment to someone that I didn't really feel confident about even if it made them feel good.
I just want to say that people should really think about everything they say. They should be asking questions like:
Why do I want to say this?
What effect will this have on me and others if I say this in this way?
Why do I need to say this?
There are a bunch of other questions to ask. Knowing the answer to those questions would probably help a lot of people.
This is an example. Why do I want to say what I'm saying in this blog? Because I think it is important for me to practice forming my ideas in a way that other people can comprehend them, and I feel strongly the issue of people being responsible with their gift of speech.
What effects will this have on people? Well I think that some people like to hear what I have to say. I wrote it into a blog that only a few people know about because that way only people who are really interested in reading it will see it. That way people who can't handle disagreeing with my ideas won't use it as an excuse to get angry. This will effect me by clearing my mind a little bit, and will allow me to further develop my thought as I go over what I wrote in my mind.
Why do I need to say what I'm saying in this blog? So that I can get better at putting my thoughts on to paper and I can have a little more experience writing while keeping an audience in mind instead of just for myself. That is important to me because I want to provide other people the opportunity to benefit from my way of thinking and awareness of reality by writing.

I really do ask myself some of these questions when I get second thoughts about saying certain things and it always helps.